Here you will find my ramblings, learnings and thoughts on all things family. Relationships with spouses, siblings, parents and children and what I’ve come to learn and understand through my own experiences.
Society as a whole has a great influence on us as individuals, however it is my experience that individuals can have just as much influence on society.
We come into this life, experience it and then leave it – and I have stories and experiences to share over the whole journey.
Many parents agree with me that the main reason kids have emotional meltdowns is that they can’t communicate their needs, wants, desires or feelings.
Imagine as an adult, having an intense need or feeling but you lacked the words to explain to your spouse or friend what it was you felt or needed – you just didn’t have the vocabulary. It’s like playing that game where you have guess an object with people giving you clues, but without using the actual word. It gets pretty hard to explain to someone what air or water or love is, without using those commonly understood terms.
That’s what it can be like for kids every day.
Dragon Child has been seeing a psychologist since she was four and a lot of the work they do is around emotional intelligence, vocabulary and knowledge. In addition to helping her directly, it has helped us as a family as a lot of that knowledge carried over to our day to day family life and how we parent both the kids.
Most of what she has practiced and worked on is learning to name feelings, context of when feelings might emerge, common responses to feelings, other people’s responses etc. A bit of work around social cues and social interactions too.
The biggest win for us was simply focusing on naming feelings.
Once a child can name how they are feeling the stress surrounding that emotion lessens and they are left with only the feeling, not the surrounding stress and distress. A child’s demeanor will change drastically if they […]
Many parents agree with me that the main reason kids have emotional meltdowns is that they can't communicate their needs, wants, desires or feelings. Imagine as an adult, having an intense need or feeling but [...]